Being unsure can sometimes be a good thing!

Being unsure can sometimes be a good thing!

There’s a good chance you’ve spent years being inundated with the message that you always have to know what we’re doing with our life. You have to know your plans, where you want to be, who to work for, what kind of career, what kind of person and life you should lead. If you’re like most of us, it’s likely you’ve also spent a good deal of time feeling quite unsure about yourself. While this may cause some anxiety, being unsure can sometimes be a good thing!

Whether it’s someone pressuring you or you’re putting that pressure on yourself, there is a tendency to believe you need to know it all even before you’ve had a chance to explore what it is you really want to be or do. All of us who’ve been through the system and come out the other end have all felt that pressure; and there is a certain amount of guilt and anxiety that comes when we realise we don’t really know what it is we want to even do, much less anything else.

That’s perfectly alright! You don’t need to have it all together and figured out. If you’re still a student, this applies to you. If you’re a working adult with a career, it’s Okay too, believe it or not!

For those who know, do they have a leg up over you?

Maybe, maybe not.

I think it’s a good idea and habit to remind yourself that different people develop at different rates. This applies throughout our childhood development, and yet somehow in adulthood, we forget that.

This means that we’re all different. While someone may know with certainty that they want to be an accountant, someone who is already an accountant may be questioning his career choices. Perhaps she wanted to be something else and to do something else, but she simply never allowed herself the opportunity to see if that was something she wanted to do. This is likely why we so often hear about people having a life crisis. They’re questioning their purpose, and the meaning of their life and that’s tied intimately with what they have decided to do and decisions they’ve made.

That person questioning themselves later on in life could have been someone who knew early on what they wanted to do. In some cases, these people may take a leap of faith and go back to school to study again, and to look for something they’re more passionate about; something they feel will have more impact and meaning to them. They may throw caution to the wind and jump industries, and essentially start anew.

It happens because we’re always developing and growing, even well into our adulthood. Each of us blossom at different times, and sometimes we change the direction and pace of our lives because we’re different people from when we first started trying to figure out the question of what we’re trying to do.

I’m not saying to relish in being unsure, but I am saying that you can take that feeling and explore who it is you want to be and what you may want to do. Are these things you feel for or are they something you feel you just need to do because it’s the thing to do?

Taking the time to explore your options can sometimes lead to unexpected paths forward, if you bother to look!

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