Why do I often feel inferior to others?

Why do I often feel inferior to others?

An inferiority complex is when you feel personally inadequate, deficient, and inferior. Typically, this is measured against peer groups and other people. However, you may have feelings of inadequacy even if you don’t suffer from an inferiority complex.

It’s actually pretty normal to feel some sense of inadequacy. It’s also normal to compare yourself to other people. You may be comparing many things, including:

  • how well you performed on tests
  • how well you performed at work
  • how much money you make
  • what kind of car you drive
  • the kind of lifestyle you live
  • what kind of house you live in

The comparisons can go on and on; and it’s absolutely normal to compare to some degree. It’s when you are not measuring up to other people that you may start to feel inadequate. Even in a professional setting, some people can’t help but feel bad about themselves if their colleagues get a promotion or does better in their job.

This can also go too far and make you question your own value and efforts. It’s the same problem that plagues social media where seeing pictures of people’s perfectly maintained lives ends up making you feel inferior and miserable about your own life, and then you feel bad about yourself.

Comparisons end up being unfair to you because the circumstances around your life and other people’s lives may be different. It may also be that your goals in life are different, and your definition for success looks different from another person’s definition.

Knowing that doesn’t make it sting any less when you know someone else is doing better than you. You still have to figure out for yourself:

  • What makes you tick?
  • What motivates you?
  • What drives you and inspires you?
  • What your goals in life?
  • What is important to you, and ultimately what kind of person do you want to be?

This requires a great deal of introspection that may be hard to do, especially if you are not naturally introspective; but take the time and know how to look into your own mind and emotions, you can come out much stronger, more assured, and more positive about yourself and your place in the world.

Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.

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