We have often talked about how happiness is so important to so many of us and in the past, we’ve touched on what it looks like to sabotage our own happiness.
When you intentionally sabotage yourself, it can look like this:
"It involves making decisions that tend to have the opposite effect of what you want. For example, you’ve been working hard to build better trust in the relationship with your significant other, and while things are going well, you end up doing something that endanger their trust in you. This could be something you consider to be small, like staying out late and not communicating properly with your partner."
It doesn’t have to be very dramatic. The sabotage can happen quietly, in small ways, when you find yourself diminish your own efforts. You quietly end up robbing yourself of your own effort and worth.
So, what does it mean to be our own roadblock?
Being our own roadblock is a way of saying that we’re preventing ourselves from even trying. We put walls up to prevent anything happening. For many people, this is a type of fear response and could well be due to past trauma and negative experiences.
When we are put in a situation where we have to take action and make a decision, we respond by blocking, evading and avoiding. The intent is to not deal with the issue at hand. This could encompass various things in our life, like a romantic partner who is asking to move to the next step, but we dodge having to deal with it. It could be having to deal with finances, but we dodge the conversation completely because the conversation is too uncomfortable. In some situations, we may get ourselves into trouble and have a hard time admitting to it, making it difficult to address the issue at hand.
When we roadblock ourselves, what we’re doing is putting all manner of obstacles in front of us to prevent having to deal with what’s ahead, even when what’s ahead may ultimately be beneficial for us. This makes it very difficult to even progress in our life and keeps us from really seeing how close to happiness we actually are. Figuring out why we roadblock and sabotage ourselves can lift major obstacles that may be keeping us back from really finding the kind of life we want to live.
Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about how you can overcome these difficult personal challenges, and how you can help yourself overcome doubts, fears, and disagreements in order to build a happier, more meaningful life.
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