Typically, when someone is referred to as a commitment phobe, the general assumption is that they have an irrational fear of being in a committed, long-term relationship. While this can be true, a lot may be lost in that assumption.
In fact, in counselling, a commitment phobe is considered to be
someone who fears long-term relationships or marriage. Usually, the fear stems from some traumatic event they experienced in their past.
Other sources are also consistent in defining a commitment phobe as someone who fears long-term relationship or marriage. The reason for this is typically attributed to trauma from the person’s early years. Often, there is an unfortunate experience with abandonment by their parent or caregiver.
On the surface of things, it doesn’t sound like a big deal but people who have issues committing to their relationships can suffer a huge loss of quality of life. The inability to commit can leave people feeling lonely and can easily spiral into depression, They may end up feeling like they can’t contribute or participate in society, and can totally disengage.
What sometimes gets lost is that it’s not always isolated to just their romantic relationships. Their inability to commit may spill over into other areas of their life. For example,
- they may not be able to commit to long-term tasks.
- they may even be unable to commit to their word and so develop a bad reputation for unreliability that they can’t easily shake off.
- They may have issues taking on any degree of responsibility
The fear of commitment isn’t just about relationships; it’s also about how someone is able to navigate and accept their situation in life. From being seen as unreliable to being alone and feeling lonely, this can negatively impact many areas of the person’s life. There is something to be said about how happy person so often can happen to be someone who is able to commit to something. Ironically, addressing this can take quite a bit of commitment for the process of recovery.
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