You’ve seen posts after posts on social media from people who seemingly are living their best life. In this day and age, getting inundated with stories of people living successful lives is common.
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Every year, people all over the world take a look at themselves to try to address something they’ve been lacking or wish to accomplish . This could be a goal to achieve better health, lose weight, learning to be more patient, earning more money, getting a promotion, or just trying to be more successful overall.
Chances are you have entertained these ideas, but have you ever thought if you’re doing this for yourself?
These might not even be your own goals and desires, but adopted from someone else. Perhaps from your peers or to please someone else.
When you attempt to lose weight, is this because you want to be more healthy, look better, and feel better; or is it because you want to please your peers and are seeking their approval?
These might seem like unimportant distinctions at first glance, but over the long term, it actually can affect your overall happiness quite a bit because you’re trying to live for someone else. These are other people’s desires, wants, and needs.
When you strive for success in your career, it’s a lot of effort and may take a lot out of you emotionally and mentally. If you end up chasing a definition of success that isn’t true to yourself, and isn’t what you truly envision and desire, any sense of true achievement and accomplishment may ultimately end up feeling quite hollow and meaningless.
Saying that, determining what you really want isn’t always easy. Your dreams and desires often are influenced in some way by external forces. Sometimes it is influences by your upbringing, your surroundings, your experiences, or from your peers. Even then, you still need to be able to identify the core of what it is that is what you want.
What you are really trying to do is figure out who you really are as a person, because that can help you determine what it is you want for yourself and what you want from your life.
Getting to this point may require quite a bit of introspection. In your busy life, these moments may be few and far between, and like a lot of people, you’ve probably ignored it for too long because it is inconvenient, or because you’re too tired. In many cases, you probably aren’t even sure where to start, so every time you try, your mind and effort wanders and you lose focus.
You should give yourself this time and effort. It is your life, your dreams, your happiness that is at stake. Don’t live for other people; find a way to live for yourself. Your happiness will help you and everyone around you.
Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.
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Admitting that you’re a failure is something that is very difficult to do. Nobody wants to admit it, even if they believe they are. Failure is, for many people, something very close to being immoral. That’s how it was for me.
There was a time when I would never have admitted I was a failure, and yet that was how I felt about myself. I felt that I couldn’t do anything right. I wasn’t very good in school. I’m mediocre at my work. My relationships stagnated, floundered, or went out of my control. I wasn’t very good at my hobbies either.
All of these things constantly made me feel like I should crawl under a rock and just hide. It just didn’t feel good that I always felt this way about myself and my life. Incidentally it was this feeling that eventually got me interested in learning about other people, how they think, and why they feel the way they do. I ended up deciding to take a course in Counselling Psychology from College of Allied Educators.
I went in expecting to learn about how other people thought and felt, but was surprised by what it did for me, personally. I wasn’t just learning about other people; I was learning about myself. I learned that self reflection was an important component in trying to understand yourself and CAE’s lecturers taught me the different methods and tools to help people reach this state of introspection; which I applied to myself.
When I applied the tools to my own self, I unknowingly started addressing my own feelings of inadequacy and failures. I then started reframing the way I thought about my situation. In time, I realised that I wasn’t failing; I just had setbacks; temporary situations that I could overcome eventually. This was a powerful realisation that got me thinking about other issues I had about myself. Slowly but surely, I inadvertently learned how to see my own success, instead of my failures.
I am thankful for CAE’s lecturers, who brought to us real life cases and real world issues people face on a daily basis. It gave me something I could relate to, and really helped push me to learn more about myself as well. CAE’s counselling psychology programmes are incredibly useful and powerful, and can be completed in a short amount of time.
I am now a little more hopeful about myself and my own future as I can see the potential ahead of me.
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Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.
POSTGRADUATE DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology (PGDICP) is a counselling psychology course accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC). The part-time Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology programme focuses on developing and enhancing experiential knowledge and skills through a holistic approach. Some of the subjects covered include Counselling Children, Addiction Intervention, Crisis Intervention, and Family Therapy.
DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Diploma in Counselling Psychology (DCPSY) is a counselling course covering a range of conceptual and functional skills in counselling. It trains students to apply appropriate counselling psychology skills in different situations, and equips students with the ability to work effectively as a counsellor.
CALL US at 6533-0031 EMAIL your enquiry to ENQUIRY@ICAE.EDU.SG
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Before I joined CAE’s counselling psychology programme, I was at a point in my life where I was unsure of what I was doing, even though I had already spent years doing it. I felt unfulfilled, but at the same time felt I was maybe too old to do anything about it.
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I was working a pretty standard office job. You could say I was successful at my career, or at least, I was doing well. From a career and job point of view, there was really nothing wrong; except, I found myself increasingly questioning what I was doing with my life.
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You’ve probably heard of the “holiday blues” by now. It’s a relatively common phenomenon that affects people during the holiday period, and is associated with anxiety, stress, sadness, and even depression.
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It’s the end of the year again, and the holidays are rolling in. During this time, you’re meant to be celebrating, being cheerful and happy, and enjoying your life with friends and family. Is this realistic to expect this if the year ranged from “not so great a year” to “a terrible year”?
Bad things happen in any given year. It could be a pandemic like the one the world is going through now, or it could be a natural disaster, or it could be something much more personal. Maybe you lost a job or had a pay cut, or maybe your relationships took a negative turn, or your emotional and mental health went down hill and you’re struggling to stay motivated and positive.
It so happens that the end of the year is when people start to think about everything that’s happened thus far, and for many people, it simply doesn’t look or feel like a great year. Trying to figure out how to enjoy yourself may not be the first thing that crosses your mind and may not seem like the easiest thing to do; but there are ways to go pat the bad things, at least for a while.
Focus on your friends and family
If you take the effort to spend quality time with your friends and family, you may find that they can be a source of great comfort and support, even if they don’t do or say anything specific. Find out how their year was, and find out more about what they are going through. Share with them your life this past year, and how you’re processing and handling it. You may find out you are alone in these feelings, and in the process, you may end up being the support they need as well.
This is important, especially so as people end up feeling alone and falling into depression during this period. Taking the time for other people will not just help them, but it will help you feel connected with those close to you, make you feel like you have people who care about you, and will help them as they struggle to deal with their year. In this time, you can find some measure of happiness together, and in that, maybe some measure of your own happiness will start to reveal itself.
Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.
POSTGRADUATE DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology (PGDICP) is a counselling psychology course accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC). The part-time Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology programme focuses on developing and enhancing experiential knowledge and skills through a holistic approach. Some of the subjects covered include Counselling Children, Addiction Intervention, Crisis Intervention, and Family Therapy.
DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Diploma in Counselling Psychology (DCPSY) is a counselling course covering a range of conceptual and functional skills in counselling. It trains students to apply appropriate counselling psychology skills in different situations, and equips students with the ability to work effectively as a counsellor.
CALL US at 6533-0031 EMAIL your enquiry to ENQUIRY@ICAE.EDU.SG
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If you’ve been thinking about a career change, or lifestyle change, or just making a personal change for the better, you probably have a very good reason for contemplating it.
Maybe you came to this point because you finally realised your life wasn’t what you wanted it to be, and you had some quite different idea of what it was supposed to be like.
Maybe you had unfulfilled dreams that you forgot about or suppressed and it has come back to haunt you. Now you’re seriously contemplating making those dreams a reality.
You may have thought long and hard about it, but are you ready to change your life?
It takes a lot of courage to make any change. Your current world that you understand and are comfortable with may be destabilised and you might be uncomfortable during the process. During the journey, the difficulties and discomfort may make you feel like running back to what you know.
You might be thinking about how your partner and family; and how they might be inconvenienced. In fact, there’s plenty of reason to not do it. It’s easier to stay where you are at, where it is comfortable. If you’re happy, then that’s where you should be; but if you aren’t happy, and something keeps tugging at you, you might have to seriously consider making that life change.
Some of the successful, life-changing, motivational stories you’ve heard can give you the false impression that a successful life transition happens overnight, by jumping with both feet in. However, that might not be for you. There’s some Wisdom to changing your life slowly, one piece at a time; allowing you and your loved ones time to ease into it. It gives you time to learn more about yourself during the process, and will give you a clearer glimpse into what it is you do or don’t want.
Change can be challenging, chaotic, scary, and can bring some level of uncertainty; but you can take your time. It is your life after all, and any decision you make has to be at your comfort and acceptance level. Take as much time as you need to think, learn, discover more about yourself. Even if you are willing and have the courage to change your life, you have to make sure that you’re ready; and that can take a lot of work.
Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.
POSTGRADUATE DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology (PGDICP) is a counselling psychology course accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC). The part-time Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology programme focuses on developing and enhancing experiential knowledge and skills through a holistic approach. Some of the subjects covered include Counselling Children, Addiction Intervention, Crisis Intervention, and Family Therapy.
ADVANCED DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Advanced Diploma in Counselling Psychology (ADICP) trains students to apply appropriate counselling skills in different situations while understanding their underlying theories. The ADICP programme introduces students to the nature of psychology and relates it to the theories and concepts of counselling. Students move on to explore themselves in order to promote personal growth and self-awareness, acquiring the key attributes of a competent counsellor and the proper methods of applying those skills.
DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Diploma in Counselling Psychology (DCPSY) is a counselling course covering a range of conceptual and functional skills in counselling. It trains students to apply appropriate counselling psychology skills in different situations, and equips students with the ability to work effectively as a counsellor.
CALL US at 6533-0031 EMAIL your enquiry to ENQUIRY@ICAE.EDU.SG
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We all have some kind of dream for ourselves, and we have an idea of what it is we want for ourselves, even if it is at the most superficial levels. Maybe we thought of being a doctor, a lawyer, a successful business person, or it could be that you had some really crazy ideas about being a superhero.
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When you were a kid, you must have had an idea of what you wanted in the future. It might have been a really crazy idea that sounded fun and fantastic at the time. As you aged and matured, you would have started to think more seriously about what your life would be like.
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