What if you’re the one in need?

What if you’re the one in need?

If you’re the type of person who people turn to in times of need, there’s a good chance you’re spending more time looking after other people’s emotional needs than your own.

Being there for other people, being their bedrock and a good listener that they can turn to is an admirable quality. It’s likely why you have an interest and affinity for counselling psychology; but helping others to lighten their burdens takes a lot of your attention and time. These aren’t one-off instances. You’ll end up following up with your friends and family to check on them and make sure they are ok, listening and continuing to be a shoulder for them to lean on.

It absolutely will eat away at your time and may even conflict with other personal or professional commitments you may have. Through it all, you may end up forgetting about yourself. Whenever you listen to someone’s problems, and help them through their emotional issues, it also takes a toll on you. While you may not have their issues, you are sharing in their burden. You will feel it, and it may weigh down on you over time.

It’s difficult not to share in the despondency or hopelessness others may feel. When someone expresses their anxieties and concerns to you, it may be hard not to also feel a certain amount of anxiety. You empathise and sympathise; and in doing so, you may very well end up assuming some of the problems onto yourself. This may end up seeping out and affecting your own life, thinking, and emotional balance.

You may not have even had the time to sit down and think about how these things are affecting you. If you have thought about it, you might have felt some measure of guilty or selfish for feeling the way you do.

You do need to think about it, and you do need to address your own thoughts and feelings, even if they haven’t yet presented a problem for you. Ignoring small issues in our life is how they snowball into bigger issues that then require extensive care and attention to deal with.

While you may be a good listener and sympathetic, it’s not always easy to figure out how you apply that to yourself. How are you supposed to listen to yourself, or how do you sort out your own thoughts and feelings to make some sense of them?

Your needs are important as well and learning how to apply the same care you have for people around you to yourself will ensure you are able to stay healthy and balanced for yourself and those who depend on you for your support and listening ear.

Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.

    Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology (PGDICP) is a counselling psychology course accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC). The part-time Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology programme focuses on developing and enhancing experiential knowledge and skills through a holistic approach. Some of the subjects covered include Counselling Children, Addiction Intervention, Crisis Intervention, and Family Therapy.  
    Advanced Diploma in Counselling Psychology (ADICP) trains students to apply appropriate counselling skills in different situations while understanding their underlying theories. The ADICP programme introduces students to the nature of psychology and relates it to the theories and concepts of counselling. Students move on to explore themselves in order to promote personal growth and self-awareness, acquiring the key attributes of a competent counsellor and the proper methods of applying those skills.
    Diploma in Counselling Psychology (DCPSY) is a counselling course covering a range of conceptual and functional skills in counselling. It trains students to apply appropriate counselling psychology skills in different situations, and equips students with the ability to work effectively as a counsellor.


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