Why am I not successful?

Why am I not successful?

This is a question that many people will have already asked, or will eventually ask about themselves. For most of us, we know the kind of success we want for ourselves, and that’s where a lot of the problems begin.

You may have had it in out head that you wanted to be a doctor, entrepreneur, architect, writer, sports star, or even a social media star. You wanted to be these things and you had to be successful at it.

The problem is that success is often equated to how much you earn. You may see people on TV living a lavish lifestyle, wearing the fanciest clothing, and driving the nicest cars and living in large, designer homes. It is inevitable that you end up comparing yourself to this to some degree. These people can live that kind of lifestyle because they make enough money, and you’re success has to mean that you make enough money.

That’s been drilled into you by parents, peers, movie stars, public figures, and society in general. You have to make a lot of money. That is success.

Once you start working though, you start to realise that money is not so easy to come by. It can take years to save enough for anything substantial, and it’s easily spent, even on just the basic necessities. You end up chasing more money because you don’t have enough. You earn enough to afford some things but not everything. You work harder and longer hours, and your stress builds because you are taking more responsibility on in order to earn more. If you don’t, you can’t be successful, and people will know you failed.

However, money is just one of the pillars of success. If you focus on just money as your only definition for success, there’s a very good chance you’ll never be happy; and you’ll continue to chase something that will continue to elude you. It may never be enough, and you’ll start asking why you aren’t successful, or why you aren’t successful enough.

A sense of personal achievement and a job well done performing your tasks are just as important, and is a sign of your success. Your ability to be a good doctor or a good writer is also a sign of your success.

Money is a good motivator, but you also need a reason to do the things you do. You may find the reason has little to nothing to do with money, and that money tends to follow your other successes.

Maybe it isn’t that you aren’t successful. Maybe you already are successful but you’ve defined success out of your own reach. Maybe in your pursuit of a singular definition of success, you ended up doing something you find no love or joy in.

Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness and success in work, love, and life.

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