Why is my life such a mess?

Why is my life such a mess?

Life is messy. It is messy, difficult, and complex. At some point, you’ve probably felt that your life in particularly is really messy. Maybe you still think it’s messy.

When you feel your life is a mess, it might actually be true. At home, your house may be messy. At work, your work space may be messy. Your bills may be piling up, and you’re behind on your credit card payments. Your relationships may be slowly crumbling right in front of your eyes.

As a result of all of this. you might think you’ve lost all control of your life. This feeling, however, is a result of your stress and anxiety over what you perceive to be a lack of control over your life. That’s why you are feeling like your life is a mess.

The good thing is that you can overcome this feeling. You have to first recognise that there are legitimate concerns that need to be addressed. You can do this by identifying areas that you feel are problematic. Is it your relationships that are causing you to feel this way, or is it your bills that is the problem. Perhaps it’s all of them.

Next you have to identify what you can change and what is beyond your control. For example, you can’t control how others feel about you or how they will react to things; but you can control how you react to different situations. You can control when your bills get paid, depending on whether you have a steady job and income. For things you can’t control, you have to accept that they are out of your control, which is not an easy thing to do for a lot of us.

Once you figure that out, you can determine your course of action. Often, just planning out what you need to do and by when can help alleviate your anxiety and stress over your life. However, you have to do regular maintenance emotionally and mentally or you’ll fall back on old ways, things start to fall apart, and you start feeling stress over your life again. It can happen very quickly, and often, this is a result of a deeper issue that hasn’t yet been addressed.

While this may sound simple to address, it can be really difficult depending on your temperament and how well you’ve cared for your mental and emotional health. Accepting that there is a problem is a difficult thing, and getting to the point where you can accept your responsibility in the creation of these problems and for their solution, can be equally difficult.

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