How do I overcome self-esteem issues?

How do I overcome self-esteem issues?

Self-esteem issues affect about 85% of people. There are a lot of books written about it but you rarely hear about it directly from other people. Even among friends this may be a taboo subject, and something people feel ashamed of.

Self-esteem is the personal value you ascribe to yourself. It’s how you see yourself and your importance to others and to yourself.

People who have self-esteem issues under value themselves and often see themselves as less than what they actually are. One of the most common self-esteem issues facing people is their physical appearance. If you have low self-esteem concerning your appearance, it simply means you aren’t confident about how they look, or about how you dress and present yourself. It could be a minor issue over something small or a major issue over your body, weight, and physical features.

It’s likely to make you overly self-conscious about your appearance, and this can make you overly sensitive to attention or comparisons with other people.

Other issues are over a lack of worth in the effort that you put in. This can apply to effort that you put in at home or effort put in at work; and can have a profoundly negative influence in how you feel and even how others perceive you and the effort you make . At home, you may feel unappreciated and unimportant. At work, you may feel worthless and incompetent. You may even feel like you can’t do anything right.

The way you value yourself and your effort influences how others view your effort, and can negatively affect how much you are paid, if you get a raise, if your efforts are recognised, and may even cause you to be overlooked for promotions.

It’s often recommended to take an assessment of the things you have done, and to be mindful of the effort you put in and the results of your effort. If you give yourself room to think and appreciate your successes, it can help quite a lot. Don’t just think of big successes. If you focus on small wins and things you’ve accomplished every day, you can build up confidence in yourself and your achievements.

If you sit down, take time to think, and write out your contributions, you may be surprised by how much you may be helping others and contributing in big and small ways.

While it is true that things like these can help you build up confidence, in many cases, these are temporary solutions. A mistake here and there may end up seeing you right back feeling like you are worthless or useless.

You really have to take the time to assess yourself more completely to figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are, what it is that you are looking for or trying to earn or achieve, and what may have caused your low self-esteem. Only then can you really start to move yourself out of the cycle of negativity.

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