Figuring out who you are is important and essential to figuring out what happiness means to you and where to find it. It’s also essential to figuring out what you want to be.

There’s a chance at some point in your life, you just didn’t like yourself. Maybe it was in your teenage years when you felt awkward and still trying to find yourself. Maybe it was at some other point in your life where you just weren’t the person you wanted to be or thought yourself to be.

Since it can take many years to even figure out and form the most basic image of who we are, it shouldn’t surprise anyone that a lot of people may simply not like themselves.

Maybe you drink too much, or maybe you smoke or have some other vice. People who gamble or have other vices often know something is wrong, even if they never verbalise it, and this can translate into feelings of immense shame and guilt. It’s just not easy to do anything about it.

It’s possible you may have had an idea of who you wanted to be and upon reflection, realise you’re not that person. You might be too short-tempered, or too judgemental, not ambitious enough, or not a good enough father, husband, wife, or mother.

Self-reflection is important to understanding who we are, but you shouldn’t judge yourself too harshly. You are human and your development is an on-going process. you’re going to find flaws in yourself, and you’re going to be disappointed in what you find. You shouldn’t focus too much on your flaws and instead try to accept these as part of who you are and the result of your experience and growth. You’re going to be a different person as long as you strive on working towards changing and improving yourself.

Remember that your development takes time, and you may never really be finished. What you see at any one point is just a snapshot and shouldn’t be seen as the totality of who you are. It’s often helpful to take these snapshots as points of references so you know who you were, what you are now, and then decide who you’d like to be in the future.

Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.

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Trying to figure out who we are is hard. We start trying to understand ourselves more intensely from our teen years well into our adult years, and for most of us, we really only know the surface level. While we’re trying to figure out who we are and where we belong in the world, we also become acutely aware of how people may perceive us and ultimately, how they may judge us.

We don’t always know who we are. For most of us, we just assume we know who we are, but haven’t really ever sat down to give it any real consideration. Usually we think about such things only when we’re going through a difficult time in our lives. Is it enough time to figure out who we really are?

Figuring out what you believe in sounds pretty easy. What you believe should be a simple matter of trust and faith that things are a certain way. However, it’s a very big question and the only thing easy about it is how lost it can make people feel if they can’t answer the question.

Typically, when a question like this is asked, it involves religion; but it doesn’t necessarily have to. Each person, regardless of religion, has a personal belief in something.

For example,

• You may believe in the inherent goodness of people, while someone else may think people are tricky and can’t be trusted.
• You may believe that life is inherently difficult and everyone should get what they can over anyone else.
• You may believe that people can change for the better while another person may think otherwise.

This can apply to personal values as well. Have you thought about what your personal values are?

• Are you committed to excellence?
• Do you believe in balancing your life around work and leisure or just work or just leisure?
• Are you calculating about your finances and spending or are you easy-going about it?

This question can also be an abstract belief about life, love, relationships, and your personal place in the world and the universe.

Some people believe they are here for a specific purpose and reason. Some believe they are here for a reason but that reason is only knowable to some higher being. Some people may not believe they are here for a reason at all.

This question is very important to ask yourself and consider because what you believe can greatly inform what you decide to do, the choices you make in life, and how you deal with difficulties that come your way. This can have tremendous effect on your happiness.

So what is it that you believe in?

There is no right or wrong answer. You just have to find your answer, whatever that may be. In doing so, you may find yourself; maybe even a better self.

Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.

POSTGRADUATE DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology (PGDICP) is a counselling psychology course accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC). The part-time Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology programme focuses on developing and enhancing experiential knowledge and skills through a holistic approach. Some of the subjects covered include Counselling Children, Addiction Intervention, Crisis Intervention, and Family Therapy.  

ADVANCED DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Advanced Diploma in Counselling Psychology (ADICP) trains students to apply appropriate counselling skills in different situations while understanding their underlying theories. The ADICP programme introduces students to the nature of psychology and relates it to the theories and concepts of counselling. Students move on to explore themselves in order to promote personal growth and self-awareness, acquiring the key attributes of a competent counsellor and the proper methods of applying those skills.

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When people say they feel lost, it could mean any number of things. It could mean they feel aimless in their job or personal life. It could mean they don’t feel like they have anything purposeful to work towards. It could mean they feel physically and emotionally distant and alone.