If you are the type of person that people always turn to for help, or you find yourself involved with helping other people, it may have crossed your mind at some point that it can be tiring and draining. In many instances, their emotions can even transfer and affect you due to your high level of empathy and sympathy.
When you help people, you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position to also be affected by any negative emotion that person may be suffering. This can have the unintended consequence of pushing your own emotional state into unhealthy territories, or it may overcomplicate the things you need to also deal with.
Maybe you’re having family problems, relationship issues, or you could be anxious and stressed about work and life. Being the person that everyone turns to, people unintentionally offload their emotions onto you, and you end up absorbing that and having to also deal with processing those emotions. This is on top of listening and maybe even helping them try and sort out their own thoughts and feelings.
It can be a lot of work and effort helping other people, but also it has its own benefits. For people who have a good ear and patience, you’re able to also empathise with other people, and while it can lead to you taking on some of their emotional burdens, you also have the opportunity to use that experience to give your own concerns the context it may require. In a lot of cases, listening to other people unburden themselves as a mutually beneficial effect in helping you work through your own burdens. At the very least it may give you pause to think about your own concerns; and that awareness and attention to your own needs can make a huge difference in putting you on your own path to understanding.
Another thing often not talked about when you listen to people and help them work through their concerns is that it helps you connect and humanises you. This means that instead of feeling like you are alone, you end up feeling more connected and interconnected to people. It is in isolation and the feeling of isolation that our issues feel insurmountable, and that can lead to a path of depression.
Listening to people and helping them also allows you to share and in sharing you are able to also better connect and unburden yourself of your own concerns. This may very well put you on a road to recovery in a way that you could not easily do sitting by yourself at home. At the very least, you’re with someone and that company will give you strength and hope.
When you’re helping someone, you also end up really helping yourself; provided you give yourself the time. People are important, but so are you. People with an affinity for helping others can often forget that.
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