On our journey towards happiness, most of us will come to a point in life where we start wondering what our purpose is. It can be considered an integral part of happiness, but purpose can be almost as fuzzy and elusive as happiness.
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It’s no secret that everyone is trying to find some measure of happiness. Some people are looking for a very specific type of happiness that is more narrowly defined, while others are looking for a general sense of happiness. Regardless, happiness can’t come unless you first look at yourself.
Learning how to love yourself is key to happiness.
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At some point in your life, you may find yourself feeling lost. Even people who knew what they were doing or had a sense of purpose and mission may find themselves in this position. Many people find themselves feeling this way throughout their lives; often they may experience this multiple times.
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From the youngest age, to your teenage years, young adult life, middle age, and beyond, most people will be doing things in order to find some sense of happiness. People are searching for meaning, joy, achievement, and satisfaction. They do that while playing, working, or in their personal life and relationships.
Happiness is hard for many people. It’s hard to find. It’s hard to feel. It’s just as likely many simply don’t even know what happiness is to even know if they are happy or not.
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We may spend a lot of time paying attention to ourselves being self-conscious, but that doesn’t mean we know who we really are. Understanding what makes up our authentic self is harder and more elusive than it appears. We have to know what being authentic even means.
Being authentic simply means that we are genuine, and truthful to ourselves. That does sound simple, but also incredibly vague. The truth is that for many of us, we don’t know who we are. At least we don’t know ourselves well enough to know what it is to even be true to ourselves, and even if we do know, we don’t always act and behave that way.
How many times have you caught yourself doing something you didn’t want to do, like buying something you didn’t even have much interest in?
You end up spending your money and effort on things you don’t need or even like because someone else likes it, or because someone else has it, or because someone else said it was great, or because other people are buying it. It could even be that your life is spent chasing after things you have no interest in whatsoever. Your hobbies, job, career, lifestyle, aspirations, whatever they may be, could very well be someone else’s dream and aspiration.
This is how some people end up feeling like their life has no meaning or purpose. There is no meaning because they aren’t doing things that are meaningful to them. They are acting in accordance to other people’s wills, tastes, and desires.
Being authentic is knowing who you are well enough that you can live according to your own truth. When you do that, you align your actions to who you really are. You’ll make decisions that best reflect what you really feel and think, and you’ll start feeling like you are in control over your own life. You won’t go around chasing useless or pointless goals. Your goals will be something you’ve considered, look forward to, and devote your time to achieving. This is incredibly important to how you find love, how you build relationships, and how you develop your own career.
There will always be external and peer influences, but knowing who you really are and acting in accordance with that will give your life a whole new layer of meaning. It could be the difference between finding happiness and meaning, or feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with everything in life.
Knowing who you are and acting true to yourself can be the key to your happiness.
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When you don’t have confidence in yourself, we say you have low self-esteem; but knowing that doesn’t really help you in any way. It’s like knowing you have a problem and that’s really it.
Self-confidence is not something most people sit down to define. They just assume they know it, assume they have it (or lack of it). It is a mindset and attitude you have about yourself regarding your abilities and traits. It is very much your attitude about yourself.
People who lack confidence may constantly overthink and second-guess themselves to the point of becoming paralysed with fear and anxiety. This can lead to an inability to make important life or career decisions, failure to perform properly at work or at home, and possibly even a failure of important personal relationships.
If you are self-confident, you trust yourself. You trust your ability to do things. You trust your decision making abilities. You trust yourself to succeed. You have faith in yourself.
Most people aren’t self-confident all the time. They may second-guess themselves, and sometimes overthink and stress over their actions, but confident people quickly overcome these obstacles. They have healthy ways of thinking about themselves, and the way they see the world supports that. They may have learned to develop healthy mental tools and habits that they apply to every day life.
Self-esteem is often used interchangeably with self-confidence but they are different. Self-esteem is how much you value yourself. It does overlap and influences your self-confidence; but you can have a healthy dose of self-esteem and still lack self-confidence depending on how many negative mental habits you have formed.
Your self-confidence is mental. It does require that you have some regard for yourself, but maintaining it requires a healthy mind, and a healthy process in dealing with the world.
You really need to understand yourself in order to access a more confidence self. You need to know and understand who you are as a person, what you have to offer, and the skills you are able to utilise and bring to the table. It’s tricky because at any point you can probably say and think yourself to be confident, but when it comes time to perform and make decisions, you end up freezing.
Maybe you’ve encountered such a situation. You feel you’ve earned a promotion at work, but when it comes time to ask for it, you sit on it and don’t act. Likely you’ve made excuses that maybe you haven’t really earned it. You could have missed opportunities in love and relationships because you ended up second guessing things when they were going well, and didn’t take the opportunity to secure the relationship.
When you understand yourself and what makes you tick, you’ll start to learn why you’re not as confident as you really need to be to take life by the horns and truly find success for yourself.
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We tend to give focus to the bad things in our lives. Sometimes much more often than appreciating the good. It’s just our nature. So when bad things happen, there is no missing it. When these bad things happen, they also seem to happen all at once. It’s why we say it never rains, but it pours.
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There might come a point in your life where you ask yourself about how to turn your life around. There is a mistaken belief that you only get to this point when your life is really bad, but this couldn’t be further from the truth.
The reality is that you may look to make life changes because something is missing, not necessarily that anything is bad about your current life. Maybe you want more time and freedom for yourself and you’re current trajectory doesn’t allow it. Maybe you want more quality time, or more learning opportunities. You might want personal development that you can’t do right now for any number of reasons.
You spend so much of your time building your life that it’s not out of the ordinary for you to easily get caught up in this task that you overlook other details. Over years, this could take a lot from you.
There is no point or age where there is a right or wrong time. When you feel something is missing is when you should start thinking about doing something. You have to take the time to think about what it is you are missing in your life. This could take a while. Don’t rush it. Assess where you are at in your life.
These are questions you can broadly ask yourself. Don’t gloss over them. Give them some time, think about your life, including the good things. It’s not just about finding bad or negative things. At the same time, don’t forget that your life might be going quite well; but that doesn’t mean you throw your hands up and say things can’t improve.
There may also be a strong tendency to compare your life to other people’s lives. It’s not bad or wrong to do some comparison, but you have to ensure that you don’t end up basing your important life decisions on what other people are doing with their life, or with what they have or don’t have.
You have to think about your life, what it is you want out of it, and how you think you can go about getting what you want. It really starts with some soul searching, and there’s no real age where you do this. Just keep in mind that this process can take time. Give yourself some time and the answer will come to you. It could even be that you conclude you’re perfectly happy with where you’re at; and that would be completely fine.
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ADVANCED DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Advanced Diploma in Counselling Psychology (ADICP) trains students to apply appropriate counselling skills in different situations while understanding their underlying theories. The ADICP programme introduces students to the nature of psychology and relates it to the theories and concepts of counselling. Students move on to explore themselves in order to promote personal growth and self-awareness, acquiring the key attributes of a competent counsellor and the proper methods of applying those skills.
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When I look back on the past few years of my life, I can say that I found it easy to blame everything wrong with my life on someone or something else. It was always someone else who caused me problems, or the economy wasn’t great. There was always something to blame for why I was stuck and not advancing.
Then I decided I had to do something; by taking control of my life. It may sound like it was something that I decided on overnight, but the truth was that it took a long time to get to that point. By the point I decided to do something, I was already trying to find ways out of my situation.
I was doing well in my career, but I wanted to do something more meaningful with my life; and career was such a huge part of my life. I just felt so stuck, and despite making more and doing more, it felt so empty and hollow. Over years, I came to the realisation that I needed to do something different. I needed to do something that I felt something for, gave me a sense of my purpose, and something that fulfilled me. I wanted to help people in some way.
After thinking and overthinking, I decided to stop making excuses. I decided that it doesn’t matter if the time isn’t right, or the economy isn’t great for it. I had to take action and go back to school for counselling psychology. It ended up being more practical than I thought as I could do it part-time; allowing me to work during the day and attend lessons in the evenings. Doing this really opened up my mind and eyes to what I had pent up all these years.
I was learning how to hone my natural talents and attributes. Along with studying and learning about how to listen and help people, I was learning more about myself as well. I knew then that I was finally making the right choices for myself; choices that had real meaning to me. The alternative was to follow a road doing things that didn’t have any real meaning to me, and trying to justify why my life choice wasn’t my own.
Taking the steps to enrol in CAE’s counselling psychology programme opened my eyes to a world I knew I was meant for but had previously did not really know much about. It was a real learning experience that empowered me to move forward with my life, regardless of my excuses.
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Join us at College of Allied Educators to learn more about yourself, what motivates you, and how you can find happiness, meaning, and success in work, love, and life.
POSTGRADUATE DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology (PGDICP) is a counselling psychology course accredited by the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC). The part-time Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling Psychology programme focuses on developing and enhancing experiential knowledge and skills through a holistic approach. Some of the subjects covered include Counselling Children, Addiction Intervention, Crisis Intervention, and Family Therapy.
ADVANCED DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Advanced Diploma in Counselling Psychology (ADICP) trains students to apply appropriate counselling skills in different situations while understanding their underlying theories. The ADICP programme introduces students to the nature of psychology and relates it to the theories and concepts of counselling. Students move on to explore themselves in order to promote personal growth and self-awareness, acquiring the key attributes of a competent counsellor and the proper methods of applying those skills.
DIPLOMA IN COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY
Diploma in Counselling Psychology (DCPSY) is a counselling course covering a range of conceptual and functional skills in counselling. It trains students to apply appropriate counselling psychology skills in different situations, and equips students with the ability to work effectively as a counsellor.
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It’s easy to believe that nothing is really under our control. Things in life tend to just happen, and we end up having to deal with the consequences. This could be an illness we have to deal with, or other events at work, or problems we face with our friends and family.
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